Every chapter gives you five things
The Teaching
The plain truth about the phase you're in — said gently, meant completely.
One DBT Skill
Explained step by step, in everyday words, so you can use it the same day you read it.
God's Truth
The scripture that anchors the phase — the verse to stand on when feelings argue.
Sit With This
Three honest reflection questions. No performing — just you and the truth.
Journal Pages
Room to write the ugly truth — and watch it lose its power over you.
A Truth to Carry
One sentence per chapter to keep in your pocket for the hard moments.
The journey, phase by phase
Healing isn't a straight line — you may live in several of these at once. Wherever you are, there's a chapter with your name on it.
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Phase 1
The Awakening — Check the Facts · Matthew 7:16 -
Phase 2
The Confusion and Self-Doubt — Wise Mind · 2 Timothy 1:7 -
Phase 3
Grieving the Relationship — Radical Acceptance · Psalm 34:18 -
Phase 4
The Trauma Bond and the Urge to Return — Urge Surfing · 1 Corinthians 13:6 -
Phase 5
Anger and Righteous Discernment — STOP · Ephesians 4:26 -
Phase 6
Boundaries Without Guilt — DEAR MAN · Proverbs 4:23 -
Phase 7
Rebuilding Your Identity — Build Mastery · Psalm 139:14 -
Phase 8
Breaking Generational Patterns — Behavior Chain · Romans 12:2 -
Phase 9
Acceptance and Emotional Freedom — Mindfulness · Isaiah 26:3 -
Phase 10
Discernment, Peace, and a New Beginning — Opposite Action · Galatians 5:22–23 -
Bonus
When They Suddenly Come Back — Pros and Cons -
Bonus
When You Feel Guilty for Setting Boundaries — Self-Validation -
Bonus
When You Start Doubting Your Memories — Check the Facts + Journaling -
Bonus
When You Realize You Don't Hate Them Anymore — Radical Acceptance
Taught by someone who lived it
I'm Nikkimae — a survivor of 25 years of domestic violence. When my own family turned on me for breaking the cycle, I rebuilt my life on faith, honesty, and tools that actually work. I don't teach theory. I teach what I lived — gentle in how I say it, unmovable in what I say.
"I'm not teaching you to hate the person who hurt you. I'm teaching you how to heal, recognize unhealthy patterns, establish godly boundaries, and stop abandoning yourself in the name of love."
If my pain can save one person, then it was worth it. Maybe that one person is you.
Questions
How do I get the workbook?
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Can I print it?
Yes — it's designed for it. The journal pages are lined and ready for your pen, or you can read and write along on a phone, tablet, or computer.
Do I need to watch the video series first?
No. The workbook stands on its own — it's the series in written, guided form, with the skills and journal work the videos don't have room for.
I'm still in the relationship. Is this for me?
Yes. The early phases are written for exactly where you are — seeing the pattern clearly and learning to trust your own mind again. Go at your pace, and keep your workbook somewhere safe.
Is this therapy?
No — it's peer support and education from a survivor, not a substitute for professional care. If you are in crisis, call or text 988 anytime, or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. You are worth immediate help.
Your healing doesn't require their participation.
Start Phase 1 tonight.
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